Blaming is never a Solution.

Blaming could never be a good option.

Yesterday I had gone with my mother to see a good friend of hers after a long time.Everything
was good and I felt nice to meet my aunt and her daughter,younger to me,studying in standard
12th.My mum so happy and excited as she knew she's gonna chit-chat after long with her friend.
I was getting bored and the only option was to get myself busy scrolling down newsfeed on facebook.
It seemed to me as if the gossip of the two pretty ladies is endless and then my aunt turned
to me calling my name.I replied her and she went on asking me about my studies and latest
plans and pursuits pertaining to my career in the near future.This conversation then shifted to her
daughter and she happened to tell us about the studies of her daughter.She sounded very worried as
this was her daughter's boards and perhaps she wasn't a good student. Aunt had lots of complains
and in no time her complains turned into blames.Blaming everyone and everything possible beginning from the school's management and academics to the tutor's classes ending to government and The Almighty.She was like "School is not doing their jobs well!";"We are paying handsome fee and they are not paying attention to my daughters development!";
"None of the teachers are teaching well.They are incapable";"We are just made fools and weakness of my daughter in academics is their fault." Tuition classes were not spared in any case and so does God but certainly God is use to of it.And I after hearing her blames went into introspection.I thoroughly thought about it.
You know I then realized that I also do the same.I am also busy blaming the situations and people and life and God. Everytime there's a feeling of rebuking when things do not fall in their place.This is our favorite pass-time as well.

I realized that very moment that Blaming is never a solution to the problems in your life.If something isn't the way it should otherwise be you need to make it that way with your sincere and honest efforts.Blaming upon situations and people around for the ups and downs is worthless.The kind of mind-sets we have developed these days and the way world around us has become Blaming is the much obvious first-approach of ours in every harsh and lows causing to us.We first blame thoroughly,criticize,rebuke strongly and to the fullest about things not going well or a failure or a fight etc and then we think about making some efforts to get them corrected.Believe me that's the last approach.Our attitude has become that way.This has not happened because of him.I am not good in academics because no one taught me well.Failure happened to me because my fate is poor.I gone through the heart-break,destiny is the reason.I often end up with loss because Laxmi isn't with me.I am dark,God is harsh.Country is not progressing,ministers are useless.Corruption is on peak,Government is dishonest.And there are countless blaming dialogues my dears.Have any one of us ever questioned ourselves?What we have done to make things better?What is our contribution?Is there any accountability of ours?How many times we have came forward to get things corrected?We are busy picking one or the other according to our comfort.I do it and you do it and believe me everyone does.This has perhaps our approach and way of dealing with the life's lows and prickly diffs.Knowingly or indeliberately we act this way.And No one is to be blamed for it.Neither the life and its situations,circumstances and people in it nor we.All we need to do is stop blaming and start acting.Acting upon the wrong and lows happening to us to make them better and peaceful.

"A man get discouraged many times but he is not a failure until he begins to blame somebody else and stops trying."


Approach should be a positive one that could eventually come up with a solution that is capable of resolving the issues.Instead of complaining work hard to make situations a better one.Its much productive to search your own past and find what caused your faults.If we are unsuccessful,we need to work even harder.If we end up in failure,we need to learn from it and correct our faults.If things are not falling in their correct place,time has yet to come.
But I certainly feel that all the approach and the efforts should be in the direction of resolution to a problem or issue that is affecting us.All the focus should be on ourselves and on what we are doing to be better and happy.
"When you realize that everything springs only from yourself,you will learn both peace and joy."

The Nothing to Wear Syndrome! ! 😂😉

Hahahaha!! Girls..Smiling right!!

Hey Girls you all must be very happy to be a Victim of this Syndrome and surely never wanted
to be cured.And for those who aren't suffering this happy syndrome my all sympathies are with them
but guys you are boring and for sure diverging from the track of being a typical girl always
greedy to get more and more in their wardrobes and still have nothing to wear.I am very happy
victim of this syndrome called 'THE NOTHING TO WEAR SYNDROME.' This syndrome often affects and
makes me realize its presence and that too at the very right moment..HAHAHA!!

Actually last night when I was going for a birthday party of my cousin I happen to struck hard by this deadly syndrome when I opened my cupboard to choose a perfect dress for the occasion.I scoured my wardrobe but only to realize that I HAVE NOTHING WEAR.And you know there started my panicky.I was as usual
cribbing that I don't have much dresses now!! What do I wear now? All the dresses are out of fashion
and infact I had already worn them so many times!! Seriouly I was once again a complaint box grumbling
about the so called issue of 'nothing to wear'.You will often find me whinning about this serious issue.
and my parents would be like 'You have such a big collection.''You are always buying something for yourself!'
:/ :/ Guys they are really serious about this but you know this syndrome is very hazardous and uncontroallable.:( :(
(HAHAHAHAH!!) I am helpless and moreover very happy to be helpless.:P :P

Let me tell you all I am big greedy when it comes to clothes and accessories. Every other weekend you will find me in the market picking up one or two dresses or may be other items like shoes,bags and other fashion items and still I will be like it is not enough and to be frank I think it's never gonna be enough for me.
My endless avarice is a symptom of this syndrome.I anyhow managed to pick a better one dress for the occasion
with a compromise attitude and firm thought to go for the shopping the very next day.This is not done!! :D

My fellow girls would be relating to this issue of mine for they have surely gone through this situation many a times in their lives too.They now know(those who were ignorant of this) that we are all too innocent and whose the culprit here?

This syndrome is the villain in the greedy story and we are just happy innocent victims.HAHAHA right girls!!
This avarice for more and more fashion goods is actually innate and We can't help it.
I feel its absolutely ok to be greedy for this case.We have got all the rights to look new and beautiful every single day making guys heart throb with a sigh!! Girls so next time when this syndrome hits you be more than happy and get your skates on and shop.Festive season is on and you are soon going to get hit with this.Get yourself some more items and fulfil the dosage of the syndrome.Happy shopping!! Cheers Girls!!
This was really fun writing.I hope you all equally enjoyed while reading.

Excitement on peak !! #BlogAdda

Wishing to be a part of BlogAdda soon :) :)

#fingerscrossed
Butterflies in the stomach :)

Making Peace with your Past.

 Past(of course a bitter one) has the power to ruin your present and demolish your future..
With these words I would wave my hand and say Hello to everyone.
This blog is probably my selfish way of speaking my burended heart out with the hope of reaching a peaceful settlement with my past very soon.Past affects all of us some or the other way and could be a solid reason of the restlessness in your present.We all fight with these bitter experiences at some point that lifes brings in to us.
Sometimes,believe me it becomes very hard to negotiate with your past.I have felt Past has all the power to bring
storms and thunder in your life and you could find yourself so helpless and weak to rescue yourself out of this havoc.

I am constantly trying hard,infact very hard,to get over some things in my life but in vain.I feel I have being trapped by my past.Every detail etched in my memory,moving like a slide show of photograph on a big screen(my mind) no matter how much I make myself
busy in any buisness this film is screening every moment into my head.I am running and past is following me and this seems a never ending race.
Past not only snatches your peace of mind but also fills you up with immense regretion and endless grudges.I filled my heart with hatred,rage and anger in order to get over the things unaffectedly.Perhaps a very weird situation it is! A person like me who's in the favor of letting go off the past is itself fighting alone a tough battle with the past to kick it off.

But during all this phase I came across some realizations and they are helping me in some way to give a tough fight back.
The more you stop yourself from recalling your gone things,the harder they hit you with their gone presence.Do not try to control the time and its deed.Believe what's done is done and for sure it can't be undone.Past can only bring back regretion and tears and leaves you with so many unanswered questions which keep bombarding your head and affecting your heart.With Intolerable pricking pain past will continue spearing your mind and soul deep into the layers,augmenting with
time unless you accept it as a unchangeable part of life.I realized fighting a battle with the past would never let me gain success over it.Voilence, in any form and with whomesoever,can never be a solution.So battle with the past is
insignificant absolutely incapable of gaining you fortitude.It could only make you hollow from inside,coz in this battle you are only hitting your inner soul unknowingly to blow off your past.Your fight is with yourself only.

"Why this happened?"

"Wish it could have not happened"

"Why me?"

"Wish I could change it."and lot more.

These questions have haunted us and the answers to these are always unsaid and unquoted.The reasons are translucent and invisible.

The only way to heal your bruised heart is making peace with your past.

Acceptance is the first step towards it and could reach you a state of consolation.Accept the Past as you do not have any better option than this.When you accept your past it becomes easier for you to let it go.

Go with the flow.Let your life flow like water and you flow with it without any fear.It is useless trying hard to go against the flow with more chances of drown.Do not run away instead face it with a smile.All the need is to make a peaceful settlement with your past.When you're gonna be in harmony and peace with the past it will stop troubling and bothering you.

Automatically you're gonna win over your past without the armaments.This is the power of peace.Therefore,with the very moment I'M GONNA MAKE PEACE WITH MY PAST!

ARE YOU???